Let’s face it—we are all imperfect parents in one way or another. It’s still easy to judge and label yourself a “good parent” or “bad parent” depending upon how you handle a given situation. What’s important is to be a good enough parent because no one is perfect. A good enough parent takes care of their child, tries their best, and looks for help when they need it. The good news is that by becoming a more effective parent, you can work on things to help improve your child’s behavior. below are some parenting mistakes we should try to avoid.
Parenting Mistakes We Should Try To Avoid
Screaming and Shouting
Screaming and yelling at your child as a means of discipline, you have adopted a flawed parenting role that will not result in a positive behavior change. By doing this you are illustrating that you have lost control over the situation and in due time your child will mirror that behavior too.
Engaging in a discussion with your child about the rules and consequences often leads to your child getting the upper hand and forcing you to alter the rules. This parenting role is ineffective as you spend most of your time debating with your child about rules you have set. Parenting mistakes we should try to avoid.
All parents want the best for their child and some want their child to be the best at everything – this role is known as the perfectionist. Because f this role the child will not be free with you as the fear of being not perfect will overcome him every time he will talk to you.
This parenting role of being the protector goes overboard. By ensuring this every time that your child is shielded from negativity and difficulties in life, you’re allowing your child to believe that they are incapable of managing difficult situations on their own.
By treating your child with money or treats and over compensating by filling that void in their life, they learn to easily manipulate you into getting whatever they want. This role can result in future problems with your child being incompetent in achieving their own personal goal.
The right to choose
If u buy your kids everything they want but they still are interested or want other’s toys or things that mean you are not giving them the freedom to choose. Children will lack behind in making their own decisions and will be dis-satisfied most of the times.
Lack of attention
Children often develop a habit of cribbing because they feel neglected. The try to gain attention is by cribbing. Lack of attention can make them irritable and bad-tempered. Parenting mistakes we should try to avoid.
Never be too harsh on your child about their mistakes. That’s when your child starts keeping secrets from you. Punishing them severely will make them tell lies to you to avoid the punishment.
Acknowledge their feelings
Don’t always try to tell them what to do and what not to do. Let them place their opinion. Respect cannot be received, it must be earned. Give respect to them and they will respect you back for sure.
Don’t let them down in front of others
Never underestimate your child in front of others, even in front of their siblings, that shatters their self-esteem. Next time they won’t be able to stand up for themselves in difficult times. They will start believing that they are useless. Instead, you better keep motivating them.
In order for your child to truly grow and change, you’ll need to parent in ways that actually make that change happen. You can do it.